The Voice of Negativity

6 Jul

 

Last night I had somewhat of an epiphany. I realized you can’t win them all and that even though the voices of those whom you can’t win may seem the loudest, they aren’t the majority. I’ve always known this in my head, but last night it became a reality.

 

I’ve been camping with our family for several days for our vacation. I have a couple of gigs coming up within the next couple of days and so being, have had to pull out my guitar to practice. This makes me a little embarrassed, because although my destiny is on the stage, I don’t like to draw unwanted attention to myself. It was a necessity in this case, so I practiced.

 

While strumming, I had a golf cart full of people, pulling a flat bed trailer of people around the campgrounds, stop in front of the fire. The driver wanted me to play a song, so I started playing one of my own. I got stopped in the middle of it, because there was a guy in the back who wanted to hear better. As he pulled around, he wanted me to play a cover of Toby Keith. (I want to point out that he was a DRUNK guy who wanted to hear better that wanted me to play a cover of Toby Keith.) When I said that I don’t play country music, he wanted a cover of someone else. When I pointed out that I play originals mostly, he wanted me to play a “folksy” song of mine. When I replied that I play blues-roots music, he told me to play a good song.

 

So I played, “Black Ball”, (which is the main song that got played when I charted #2 on the Roots Music Report’s Roots Rock charts and still gets radio play two and half years after its release.) He stopped me in the middle of it and wanted me to play a Bonnie Raitt song. Apparently he doesn’t like my guitar playing. Not that I blame him, I don’t like my guitar playing either. It is a necessity though, since I can’t afford to hire someone on the road and pay for their food and lodging. Playing for myself gets me a profit to help my music along.

 

Anyway, back to the cover of Bonnie Raitt… I said I only play originals, in which he scolded me and told me I should play covers. Then he told me that someone needed to help me out, saying more rude stuff along the way. I was perturbed to the point of giving him a piece of my mind, when they finally drove off and I didn’t have to.

 

At first when he left, I had that panicky feeling of “not good enough” that likes to plague me occasionally because of my strict, religious upbringing. But then I started to think about it… He was a belligerent drunk sitting in a lawn chair in the back of trailer pulled by a golf cart at a campground site in the middle of nowhere in NC. (And he was wearing a tow chain around his neck like a necklace. Classy.) Who cares what he thinks?

 

Then I began to think about everyone else that was there in the trailer and golf cart. Every single other person that was on that golf-cart and trailer LOVED my music. They were refuting him and telling me how great I was. The driver of the golf cart even offered to drive my bus when I “got big”. They were saying that they were going to see me on TV someday. Other people who drove by loved my music and said that I should be on TV.

 

So, I began thinking some more and asking questions, because that is what I do. :) Why is it that the voice of negativity always is the loudest? Why does that one negative voice out of dozens of positive ones, seem to get us down, drowning out the positive voices?

 

I’m not 100% sure why that is. Perhaps the negative voice touches on our insecurities. It takes someone strong enough to not allow the negative voices to become the majority in our minds and to simply keep on going despite them. Normally it would have taken me days to shake off what the drunken man had said to me, but I was happy that I was able to shake it off within a few minutes. This is a big step for me, because my self-confidence has always been my weakest area when it comes to this music business.

 

So, sorry drunken campground trailer king, I can’t play guitar like a virtuoso, which is what I think you were trying to get from me. (Or maybe you are just one of those small people who likes to accentuate the weakest areas so you look better as you drunkenly flaunt your supposed inferiority, while wearing a tow chain around your neck.) Truth is, I can play well enough to accompany myself without a huge amount of embarrassment, but I am a pretty darn good singer, (better than most,) who has been writing some pretty darn good songs lately, (better than I’ve ever written.) I have a wonderful group of family, friends, fans, and an awesome label to support me and teach me. Who. Are. You?

 

Moral: Don’t let negative people get you down. They aren’t the majority. Don’t hang around them. They are terrible influences. And who wants to be around someone so droll, anyway?

 

Love you all! :)

 

Super-Bzzzy

24 Jun

I have been busy as a bee here since May.  I was hoping since ballet was over that things would slow down, but there has been so much going into the garden, writing new music, getting a vision for what I want with my new project and gigging.  I like being this busy, so it isn’t a problem.  But some things slips through the cracks when I am spinning too many plates.  This is one of those times!

I haven’t posted any pics of the Down the Line tour that I had in May yet.  Here they are:

 

Playing at Indi*Go.  Loved that place!  Erik Ferguson on guitar!

Playing at Indi*Go. Loved that place! Erik Ferguson on guitar!

 

On the way to OH... Stopping at Starbucks.  I thought it was nifty how similar our names were.  It doesn't take much to entertain me. :)

On the way to OH… Stopping at Starbucks. I thought it was nifty how similar our names were. It doesn’t take much to entertain me. :)

 

 

My name on a billboard!  I'm not complaining.  Pretty cool to see it. :)

My name on a billboard! I’m not complaining. Pretty cool to see it. :)

 

Typical stop on tour.  The(ir) local laundry mat...

Typical stop on tour. The(ir) local laundry mat…

 

New merch table stuff.  I'm getting very low on shirts... and CDs.  Good problems to have, because it means I have sold stuff!

New merch table stuff. I’m getting very low on shirts… and CDs. Good problems to have, because it means I have sold stuff!

A fuzzy picture of me playing an electric guitar at a gig for the first time ever!  I enjoyed it.  (Need pedals though...)

A fuzzy picture of me playing an electric guitar at a gig for the first time ever! I enjoyed it. (Need pedals though…)

The Friday after I got back from tour, I played at Mayday Brewery in Murfreesboro, TN.  Here are a couple of pics from the night:

Playing in a beautiful room and sipping on Mayday's Angry Redhead in between songs.

Playing in a beautiful room and sipping on Mayday’s Angry Redhead in between songs.

Before the show I took a restroom break... freaked me out to see this guy in the restroom.  I'm not sure "tacos" and "naked" should ever be on the same sign, but hey! It's Mayday! ;)

Before the show I took a restroom break… freaked me out to see this guy in the restroom. I’m not sure “tacos” and “naked” should ever be on the same sign, but hey! It’s Mayday! ;)

 

And here is what I have been doing this past week:

Lovely lettuce.  (It tasted good.)

Lovely lettuce. (It tasted good.)

Pretty bean blossom.

Pretty bean blossom.

Spaghetti squash in foreground.  Pumpkin in background.

Spaghetti squash in foreground. Pumpkin in background.

Canning!  This is wild blackberry jam.  I also have canned strawberry jam and green beans so far this year.  Today I put 4 quart bags of grated zucchini/summer squash into the freezer.

Canning! This is wild blackberry jam. I also have canned strawberry jam and green beans so far this year. Today I put 4 quart bags of grated zucchini/summer squash into the freezer.

 

And because I never go a day without doing SOMETHING for music, I also have spent a bit of time on this:

My portable desk.

My portable desk.

 

Tonight I am doing more work and then up early to head to the gym! :)

 

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New Video! New Song! “Patient Love”

12 Jun

Patient Love by Erisa Rei Kopp/ Pesky Fly Music 2014

 

You waited for me

When I sat by the wayside

Tending my wounds

Losing my cool

You waited for me

And were there in my struggle

You let me unwind

Your ears were mine

 

And now that the trouble is gone

I can’t thank you enough

So lucky to have your patient love

 

You stood beside me

I was a young and naïve bride

So fly away

And easy-swayed

You stood beside me

When the thunderstorms of life came

And blew me around

You kept me on the ground

 

And now that the trouble is gone

I can’t thank you enough

So lucky to have your patient love

 

Oh, you know it was you,

That gave me room to grow

Oh you know it will be, it will be

Only you for me

As long as we are breathing

 

And now that the trouble is gone

I can’t thank you enough

So lucky to have your patient love

Down the Line Tour

7 May

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In less than a week, I’ll be heading out on my “Down the Line” tour with Erik Ferguson, (guitar player,) and Eric Kopp, (hubby).  I am looking forward to getting on the road again.  I know that with both of these great guys coming with me, it will be a good time.  It’s not a long tour this time.  I’m saving that for next year’s tour.

I also have a private gig that I’m playing this Saturday before the tour, as well as a gig at Mayday Brewery the Saturday after the tour is over.

 

 

Just a Lil’ Update

12 Feb

I just wanted to update everyone on what is going on with my music.  I have been writing for a little under two years for my next project.  It could have went a few directions, but out of the three or four ways I could go, one has steadily been there.  The others have blown away like superfluous chaff, unneeded.   I’ve learned a lot about the writing process and about myself in the midst of the process.  Sometimes you have to get rid of all of the scum that rises from your soul, (past experiences, toxic relationships,) in order to get to the gold.  That is what I feel has happened with my writing in the past couple of years.

Gig-wise, I have either been very happy with my gigs or very annoyed by them.  There are cities, as well as venues,  that I really don’t want to play ever again.  And then there are the places that surprise me by how much I love them.  There have been both this year, making things a tiny bit roller-coaster-y, but each experience has definitely taught me different things about performing and how to deal with messy situations when they come up.

This year I’m doing another lighter load of gigs.  I have some things that I want to get done at our farm.  I also want to take time to write some more.  We also have a lot of ballet classes to take our girls to.  

All-in-all, I’m thankful for many things… family, love, & people who believe in me even when I don’t believe in myself, a home, two vehicles, etc.  The list goes on. 

I’ll let you know when something really cool happens!

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16 Years of Fun

6 Feb

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Jokers & Gypsies Update #3

17 Oct

Yesterday we traveled to Dallas.  We stopped at the Ft. Worth Stockyards for a little fun time in the afternoon.  I bought a black cowgirl hat which I will show off for you all soon. :)  We also ate a great flat iron steak and a baked potato at a steakhouse in the Stockyards.

Last night we played at Opening Bell Coffee in Dallas.  It was a really cool venue with a very friendly staff and receptive audience.  We shared two 45 minute sets.   Here are a couple pics of the day.:

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Chalkboard at Opening Bell.

Chalkboard at Opening Bell.

We both REALLY love Texas!!!!

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